juzdawn wrote:


It's mind boggling, isn't it? I have heard stories first hand from ladies who actually encourage fellow ladies to "just close an eye" about these things because... in so many words, boys will be boys. Some women have accepted this as part of being a wife. And I think it's a load of crock. I think some people feel that if they marry into "money" or "prominence," there are some things that you should accept that goes with it...

In that case, I ought to stick to guys who aren't of money and prominence. But the sad part is, even that doesn't guarantee you a life free of heartache. It really really really depends on the person you end up with.

[quote="globalcool" post=11990
It's mind boggling, isn't it? I have heard stories first hand from ladies who actually encourage fellow ladies to "just close an eye" about these things because... in so many words, boys will be boys. Some women have accepted this as part of being a wife. And I think it's a load of crock. I think some people feel that if they marry into "money" or "prominence," there are some things that you should accept that goes with it...

In that case, I ought to stick to guys who aren't of money and prominence. But the sad part is, even that doesn't guarantee you a life free of heartache. It really really really depends on the person you end up with.[/quote]

Yea i agree with you.
Some woman feel that it's perfectly okay for man to stray as long as they come back home.
I can't take that shit man. Would rather work harder with a poorer man even though there's no guarantee that he won't do the same. \
At least i know that i have tried..

If we give that guy another chance, will he really appreciate and mend his ways.
Many said its hard. A saying “A leopard will never changes its spots”..

I rather suffer now to end that relationship and not give him a chance.. And let him know that I can live happily without him..
If he really loves me, he will not betray me, by betraying me shows he loves himself more than anyone else.. He did not consider my feelings at all.
I believe once a cheater, always a cheater.

Hmmm... i think it's case by case basis.
Some guys will never change.. but some guys do.

But it's very tough. Once the trust is gone, it'll take years to build it back + things can never be the same again.
So the message to man- don't cheat!

The same message goes to the girls too, I guess, to be fair.

But really, cheating is a big nono. If you are going to cheat, then why even commit in the first place. Just go into those no-strings attached kind of relationships with people who also want that. That way both of you can have your cake and eat it and not hurt the feelings of those looking for a serious relationship.

Anyway, just my two cents worth.

[quote="huirong" post=12082]globalcool wrote:


Hui rong I totally agree with you. I rather work my ass off and be with a poorer man than be with someone I know will surely stray

huirong wrote:


Yeh, my ex was like that cheated on me once, then I forgave him, and then 3-4 yrs later cheat again. Finally broke off but now he is looking for "third" chances.. sigh

no way!

juzdawn wrote:


Commitment becomes more and more of a business transaction these days. Especially in Singapore and the whole business of securing a flat...

Guys say "I'm a guy who has needs" -- I find that it's the biggest cop-out anyone can give. As if it's something we should blindly accept. I mean, girls got needs too... and yet we get pounced on if we use that excuse...

globalcool wrote:


That excuse is the WORST excuse ever!! If used by a man, it just shows how weak he is!!