Relationship

Upgrade that Booty Call

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It may have started out as a harmless friends with benefits situation and then you find yourself wanting more than that, or you genuinely started off thinking that this was going to blossom into a relationship but unfortunately, you’ve ended up being just his regular booty call.

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It’s not the end of the road, you can salvage the situation and upgrade your booty call status to something more serious. Here’s how you can try.

 

Break the Routine

You know you’ve ended up being just a booty call if your “dates” don’t involve any couple activities other than sex. You aren’t going to dinner or movies, etc. He may be doing those things, but you aren’t included. You only come to his mind at the end of the day, to fill up that space between his sheets.

Arrange to meet him out in public, it could be as simple as a quick lunch near his office. Or invite him to watch the latest blockbuster movie with you on the weekend. Tell him you’d like to go to Jewel at Changi airport together because you both haven’t seen it yet! Don’t fall back into the pit of just ‘hanging out’ at his place.

 

Engage in Conversation

A conversation that doesn’t involve sex. Start off with some small talk about the weather, or current events. And then graduate to more deeper subjects as you go along and get him to open up and bond with you.

See what he is made of and how well he interacts with you out of the bedroom. This allows you to break down any barriers there may be, and also to learn more about him. This would be a great indication of your compatibility as a whole couple and not just sexual compatibility.

 

Withhold Sex

If he just wants you to pop by his apartment to ‘chill’, make up some excuse that you cannot make it. If you do turn up, then have some restraint and not give in to the urge to touch him or rip each other’s clothes off. If he’s interested in you as a person and not just the great sex, he will make the effort to meet you in other situations, other places, and he will still want your presence even if it doesn’t guarantee sex.

 

If all he is interested in is sex, then you will lose his interest really fast. And that’s fine! Good riddance, you don’t have time to be an unpaid hooker.