Holly Jean's What do Men find Irresistible in Women?


Technically speaking, every man has different standards and preferences when it comes to women. But there is a pattern. There are actually things that men find totally hard to resist no matter what. Surprisingly enough, very few women can stand out and leave such an impression on a man that it makes her irresistible.

So the big question is, if it's supposedly so easy... then how do you become irresistible? Top 10 Things Men Find Irresistible In A Woman ( and they're not all physical...)

A Sense of Humour

Your laughter girls, is pure man bait.

When a man hears a woman laugh from across the room at the jokes of another man, it has the power to make him jealous and want that laughter to be for him.


You need to be educated academically and well read to be able to have an intelligent conversation. And you also have to be street smart, as well as have emotional intelligence so you'll have tact and grace to make people feel at ease around you.


The good news is- nurturance is one of the most basic female primal instincts. It's innate in us women. But a lot of women don't show it enough. Most men like to see a little bit of "mommy material" in their girlfriends. The way she cuddles a little puppy, or takes care of him when he's ill... is attractive. For men, a compassionate and loving woman is the best candidate for a girlfriend, wife and mother to their future children.


Confidence, of course, plays a very important factor when it comes to attracting the opposite sex. Push your shoulders back, hold your head up high, look people in the eye when you're talking and believe you have something worth listening to when you speak. It makes all the difference. Being shy is nice and all but sooner or later, you'll have to bust out of that shell.


Have a little air of mystery within you. Men are always challenged with girls who don't reveal too much and always seem to have a dark secret under their sleeve. It gets them totally intrigued.


Show that you can take care of yourself and be in control of your emotions. It means you don't need a man to baby sit you and you don't whine to get his attention. Show him that you can be his equal but don't lose the appeal of still being a woman. You need to make him feel needed yet, not pressured. It's a balance.

Charm and sex appeal

You don't have to be extremely pretty, or wear the most expensive clothes, or put on the highest heels and pile up loads of make-up to actually be seductive. In fact, men often find that a woman who is dressed like a lady(but I don't mean like a nun) is more sexually appealing than the woman with her butt cheeks hanging out of her hot pants.

Smell Nice

Many men I know have said that they find the smell of freshly washed hair irresistible in a woman. Of course, there are other ways to smell nice, with scents and lotions too.

Pretty Eyes

If you're healthy and happy, your eyes should have that sparkle. Your eyes speak for you even before you open your mouth. Enhance your eyes with make up, and learn to smile with your eyes. Eyebags, and tired looking eyes are unattractive.


This is the easiest of the lot. A woman who appears happy and is smiling is attractive to men. Happiness and smiles are infectious, it makes you appear more approachable and look like someone who has positive attitude in life. A playful and happy person attracts men like a magnet.

You can be that irresistible woman. All you need is a little attitude makeover, a little confidence and some positive thinking to make it all happen.

Holly Jean Aroozoo is our Contributing Love & Sex Editor. She is a very popular blogger who was one of the top 10 finalists in the Singapore Blog Awards, Best Lifestyle Blog category and contestant on S Factor in 2009.

Part of the FHM top 100 Girls Next Door in 2008, she is impulsive, adventurous and enjoys travel, new clothes, unhealthy food and men. She adores all things pink
and is a freelance writer who focuses on lifestyle topics.

Holly  is the Ambassador for Ettusais, and Sony's make.believe campaign.