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Your Man can't Get it up?!

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Some people say that sex is like beer. Any beer is better than no beer, and beer can never really be that bad. Well, I think these people have either never had really shitty sex or never had warm beer from an old English pub.

Your Man can't Get it up?!

Let’s look at some common bedroom problems and how to fix them.

Erectile Dysfunction

A man has erectile dysfunction if he cannot get or keep an erection that is firm enough for him to have sex. It may be caused by physical problems (e.g. injury to nerves) or health issues (e.g. diabetes) or side effects to medication or alcohol. It could also be a psychological issue (e.g stress).

My advice is to see if he gets a hard on when he wakes up in the morning. Most normal functioning men will get a more erect penis first thing in the morning. If he always wakes up with a flaccid penis, the problem is most likely a physical one and not a psychological one. You need to encourage him to seek treatment from a doctor. Because erection problems are most often caused by a physical problem, it’s important for him to eat healthy foods and stay fit. If you suspect the problem is a psychological one, you may try to reduce his performance anxiety by being understanding and engaging in roleplaying. Roleplaying may help distract from any performance anxiety that might be felt in the bedroom.

Pain

Some men don’t know just how very sensitive women's bodies are. What they might think are undulated moans of pleasure could well be our screams of searing death. It surprises me how many men can't really tell the difference between pain and pleasure!

You need to show him what feels good on you. Demonstrate by letting him watch you play with yourself, or guide his hands over your body so he can learn from his mistakes. Your man will appreciate knowing what works for you and what doesn't. So many problems women have in the bedroom are caused by not telling the man what he is doing wrong. However, if your partner is gentle as can be, yet you are still experiencing pain, you may have vulvodynia which causes chronic discomfort during sex. Apparently, it affect a whopping 15% of women!

Premature Ejaculation This is when a man has no control, and ejaculates much earlier than he or his partner would like him to. It is usually more common among younger and/or inexperienced men. It is debatable as to how long is normal, but I would say that anything that is less than 2 minutes is a big problem. There are creams, gels and even condoms that numb the sensitivity of the penis. You can also try getting him to climax from masturbation first, and then getting him erect again after a short rest. It will usually take him a longer time to come the second time round. Some men swear that it helps to think of their grandmothers when they feel they're about to come too soon.

Low libido

Men with low libido have a decreased sex drive. It is not unusual to experience a temporary decline in sexual desire at some point in life, but if it persists, it may cause problems.The most common causes of a low libido are fatigue and stress but may also be side effects from medication.

Some foods such as oysters and chocolates are believed to be aphrodisiacs which increase sex drive. Oysters are a rich source of zinc which nourish the prostate gland and boosts testosterone production. Chocolate contains a nutrient that enhances mood and is the chemical we produce in our brains when we fall in love.  If your man is not performing in the bedroom, then fix the problem together. You should never resign yourself to a life of bad sex (or even warm beer for that matter).

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