By romance, I don't mean little pecks on the lips or him asking you to "go steady". I mean the "I’m just a girl standing in front of a boy asking him to love her" kind of romance. The kind that takes your breath away and sweeps you off your 5 inch heels.
Much like Romeo professing his love for Juliet under her balcony, Adam Sandler serenading Drew Barrymore in an airplane with "I want to grow old with you", or rowing a gondola down the Ventian Canals.
I don't think romance is dead but for some reason, men have come to realise that it's a lot easier and cheaper to just have sex with women than to romance them into loving them. Romance is dying because women are impatient and we have begun to prioritise sex over romance. Very often, a woman rushes into sex in a new relationship before romance has had a chance to develop.
She may do it because she feels that sex creates a bond, sex gets her a key to his apartment, it's the shortcut way to make her feel like they are a couple, or quite simply because women enjoy sex as much as men do (sometimes even more).
But ladies, keep your pants on and think about this for a minute...
You can have sex without romance. You can have romance without sex. But one thing is for sure, if you want both in your life, then romance has got to come first. It rarely works the other way round. So let a guy woo you, it is through the process of wooing that romance is born.
If you offer sex too readily to a man you are dating, then he will discard the notion that you want romance.... or worse still, he will no longer believe that romance matters to women (and there you go, spoiling it for the rest of us!). And then you wake up one day, all psycho and angry, and scream, "Why are you so unromantic?!"
Honey, it's your fault! Don't blame him for the lack of romance. You never gave him the chance to woo you, to work at attaining your affection and developing romance in a relationship. All you did was have sex with him and called it love.
Yes, everyday life isn't going to be a bouquet of roses and grand gestures. But there are moments when men are moved to do incredibly thoughtful and wonderful things for the women they love. Wait for it. Romance isn't dead, as long as you don't kill it.
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