Falling out of love is a very painful process. For me, I feel that falling out of love is often more emotional than falling in love. Many people feel it's better to stay with someone they’ve fallen out of love with as opposed to hurting them by dumping them.
In reality, doing so only robs their partner of the precious time they could have to find love again. So, staying with someone you no longer love is creating bad love karma for your selfish self!
So here's what you can do when you find yourself falling out of love....
Try to fall back in love again
Make the effort to take a private vacation together. A vacation is when you are both relaxed and free of the burdens of work or family. This is a good opportunity to rekindle the romance in your relationship or to see if it's still there.
Break the cycle
Sometimes we allow things to become so routine in our relationships that we end up taking each other for granted. We go to work ,come home, eat, watch tv, sleep. The first thing to do is to break that cycle if you're in it. Have a date night out, or set aside some couple time where you can both do something enjoyable together. This can be in the form of a long walk in the park or even cooking. Anything to inject some life back into your relationship.
Have some alone time
Set aside some 'me' time where you can be on your own. Spend time to reflect on the qualities and good things about him that made you fall in love with him in the first place. They say absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Let your partner know
Sometimes though, if you are really out of love, there is nothing you can do to change that. Once you have made up your mind, the tough part is getting up the nerve and courage to crush the one you once loved. Don't do it in an email, text message or over the phone. This needs to be done face to face. Telling your partner that you no longer love them is a painful situation that needs to be handled with a balance of consideration, honesty and empathy.
Don't get tangled up in the "I still love you, I'm just not in love with you" routine. That's only deceitful and it leaves false hope for reconciliation.
Just carry on
Anyone who has told their partner that they no longer love them, will be sad, broken hearted and feel very guilty. This is a normal process of falling out of love. It is when they fall in love again they will know the renewed hope of love. You can fall in love over and over again, more than once and with different people. You just have to accept that with love, there are just no guarantees.
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