Although it may not seem normal to some, there is nothing wrong with liking girls and letting girls like you. The world is changing, it is after all the 21st century and you are allowed to know and embrace your sexual orientation. There are several steps you could take if you have not yet let your friends and family know that you like girls and not the boys that try to hook you up with every now and then.
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1. Be sure of your sexuality
If you are still in that phase where you are trying to figure out whether you like girls, boys or both, do not come out yet. To come out means you have no doubt, about which gender you like and are certain you will not change at all.
2. Consider the time and your family
To consider the time means looking at the situation that surrounds your life at the moment, and what your family is like. We have witnessed and heard of cases where people have been chased from their homes and cut off financially for announcing their sexual affiliations. Therefore, before you come out, make sure to think what it will probably be like once they know. If your family is very homophobic it is better that you tell them when you have your own home and a good job.
3. Come out in a sequence
This is a delicate process, during which you will need emotional support. The best way to handle the situation is by applying the old divide and conquer technique. First, tell one or two close friends and then start expanding that circle. Do not tell all of them at once because while they may sincerely love you,chances are that they will be shocked and you will be tempted, in a moment of panic, to think that their shock is rejection. Telling a few people first will let you have support while you tell the others.
4. Do not beat around the bush
While you are giving the news, it will be great to hit the nail on the head. Beating around the bush while giving the news, will give the sensation that you are not sure or that you are ashamed of it. The statement should be like: “hey guys, I called you here today because I have something to say. Feel free to ask questions if you want. I am a lesbian, I like girls”. In that statement you are, firm and straight to the point, and you appear sure of yourself.
5. Be prepared to lose a few people
This is probably the worst part of coming out. People will judge you according to your status in society and their beliefs. Some will accept you for who you are, while some will not. Be ready for that.
6. Be prepared for the questions
Because your family has probably tried to hook you up or you have dated a few guys, be ready for questions such as what about your boyfriend or your ex? Or even for your more daring friends; how is it like to kiss a girl?
7. Know you do not have a deadline
Remember this is your life and no one should rush you into anything. Tell the people you want to tell, ignore the ones you do not feel like telling and know that you do not have a deadline to tell people that you are not heterosexual like them.
8. Act normal
After telling people go about as normal and give people the time to process the information. It is all after all, a normal part of life!
