The wide eyed girl with her flirtatious dark lashes bat at you as she nods to the things you say. She may not agree to some of the things you tell her but politely smiled it off. And to the things she relates to, her eyes grinned in approval. Her long black hair that was straightened by the chemicals of vanity obediently settles on her shoulders as she tries to maintain her posture even after long hours of conversation. You know that this girl is more than meets the eye.
This girl got the looks. This girl got the brains. But to me, most importantly, this girl got the heart. Kind, gentle and child-like disposition.
There is a certain subtle charm about Holly. And I am very sure that she is often misunderstood by many from what she says and does in her blog. And just like me, I find our characters and personalities similar in the sense where our characters – what you see is what you get – but our personality – what you see is what we are not. And maybe that is why I have a soft spot for her.
Holly Jean is one of the most responsible freelancers and bloggers that I have worked with throughout my career. And she has the kind of initiative that makes working with her so easy and so enjoyable. She is versatile and yet maintains her own principles without offending you.
She’s special, this Holly. And while she mentioned, “It is easy getting the men. What is not easy for me is finding the right one.” She may appear to some as a player but all she ever wanted to do in her life is to build a loving family and be a good mother and wife.
And believe it or not, I believe her. And that is why she is MyFatPocket’s Contributing Love & Sex Editor because her advice and stories are real. She writes from her heart.
As a contributing Love and Sex Editor of MyFatPocket and also as someone who gives advice on sex and love in your blog, how well do you think people would think of you in that aspect after just coming out from a relationship?
It’s a prejudicial assumption that just because a person is single (or divorced) that this alone automatically means that the person doesn’t know anything about relationships. But the reality is, a person’s wealth of knowledge and awareness of love and relationships isn’t validated only by their marital status.
In my opinion, you cannot get good advice from someone who’s had it easy all the time and never experienced disappointment. I don’t view my last relationship as a failure, but rather a learning experience.
You often mention in your blog that you would like to get married and settle down as you are getting older and most of your peers are tying the knot. Do you honestly think age has a big play in the mindset to settle down?
Not so much age as in the number… but age as in your state of mind and the phase of life you’re in. I feel like I’m ready for a commitment and family. And I find that my peers have all entered this phase at about the same time too (late 20s).
You have beautiful skin and very well toned body. What is your lifestyle like?
I naturally have a very low carb, high protein diet. I don’t like the taste of rice, bread and pasta. I don’t watch what I eat, but I do control the quantity. So, I enjoy all my favourite fat food but I do it in moderation. (Unless it’s duck. I have no control over duck! Haha). I exercise regularly, mainly weekly gym sessions and regular swims.
You are currently the ambassador for Sony, ClubCouture and Ettusais. What is this experience like?
I’m really fortunate to be able to represent popular and established brands like ClubCouture, Ettusais and Sony.
I’m always excited over ClubCouture’s new collections beause I LOVE CLOTHES (!!) and they are up to date with the fashion trends, celebrity inspired looks and high-street fashion styles. My wardrobe is filled with all my favourite outfits from ClubCouture! A couple of months ago I had a photoshoot with all the other ambassadors and it was a fantastic experience! Best of all, I’m very pleased to be able to share ClubCouture with my readers as it’s affordable and caters to a wide range of women out there.
This is my second year as an Ettusais ambassador. I’ve learnt a lot about skin care and beauty so far. I have access to many fun and useful beauty workshops and their wide range of skin care and cosmetics. I’m looking forward to their Spring colours coming up!
With SONY, it’s all about the “make.believe” experience. Apart from using all the latest Sony products (laptop, cameras, etc), I get to attend concerts and meet great people. This month, I met the band Boys Like Girls and American Idol Kris Allen. It’s an amazing experience, never in a million years did I think that I’d be in such a privileged position.
Do you have to adhere to anything in specific being their ambassadors?
There are many datelines to meet, events to attend and also an image to maintain… but all of these are part and parcel of being an ambassador. As long as it’s a brand I believe in and am proud to represent, I don’t see any of it as a matter of adherence but more like something I’m glad to do.
Have you ever been judged for writing controversial stories on your blog?
Yes! Some readers are fond of taking things I say out of context and making mountains out of molehills. I don’t shy away from taboo subjects like sex, I blog about whatever is on my mind.
You seem to be an avid animal lover. You recently bought a dog. How is she coming along so far?
She’s lovely. She’s a Morkie (Maltese and Yorkie mix). She has the features of a Yorkie but the temperament of a maltese which is perfect for me.
You were a teacher before but decided to blog full-time now. What were the factors that made you choose this path?
I did not like the rigidity of my job as a teacher. The environment left me very little space for self expression and originality. When my contract was finished, it didn’t take much deliberation to leave and pursue blogging full time. I love that my job now has no boundaries and I can do it pretty much from anywhere in the world.
Tell us more about your family.
I am blessed to have a happy and supportive family. I am the middle child in a family of 5. I am very close to my younger brother.
You have a section on your blog called SUNDAY LEMMINGS. Tell us all about it.
Sunday Lemmings is a fun girly post at the end of each week where I gush about my latest clothes, bags & accessories as well as share with my female readers all the good buys and things I’ve spotted (and am lemming for). My aim is for Sunday Lemmings to become more interactive and for readers to suggest/contribute their lemmings too.
Share with us your most romantic love affair ever.
Many years ago, I met this boy (we were about 23) at the airport. He was flying back to Bristol while I was flying to Perth for a holiday. Sparks flew. We exchanged emails after such a brief encounter. Then for about 6 months, we met almost every day online. We’d see each other through webcam.
He’d wake up in the wee hours of the morning (because of the time difference) to spend time with me. On Valentine’s Day he sent me flowers… when it snowed there, he wrote I Love You Holly in the snow and MMSed me a picture. I used to send him hand written letters and poems.
Sadly though it ended when he could not live in Singapore. He did not get a work permit here because he didn’t have a degree or any specialisation. But for those 6 months, we were on cloud 9.
What would your dream wedding be?
A couple of years ago, I would have said a big fairy tale wedding in a church, with bells ringing and doves flying. But right now, I realise that all of that is not nearly as important as finding the right partner. If I find the right one, all of that wouldn’t matter, I’d get married in dirt and still be happy!
In your own definition, what makes a woman modern and smart?
Education. Not just through schools and universities but women must educate themselves in the lessons of life. Never be afraid of trying or failing, just have the sense to make informed decisions and calculated risks. And know that you don’t have to be superwoman and do everything on your own, it’s ok to lean on other people sometimes.
What, to you, is being financially independent?
It’s not just about earning money. You must live within your means. If you don’t invest, then at least save. If you lose your source of income, you need to be able to survive on your savings comfortably for at least 8 months in my opinioin.
Do you think you are financially savvy and smart? Why?
Yes, I save well. When it comes to money, I am like a squirrel with nuts. I invest a comfortable portion of my savings. I never buy things I cannot afford. But of course that doesn’t mean I live in poverty (!), I still do the things I enjoy and spend money on things that give me good value.
What does the phrase “MyFatPocket” remind you of?
Something all encompassing. It’s like taking a variety of things and placing it in one pocket. 🙂