Whenever a male friend of yours says he is dating a Japanese girl, have you noticed that he does it with a lot of pride? Like it’s a bigger triumph than dating a local girl, Thai girl or Malaysian girl, etc.
What is the allure of these Japanese women, is it their character? Their looks? Kawaii culture? And most importantly, is there anything we can learn from them to make ourselves more attractive?
One of the attributes of Japanese girls that foreign men generally find attractive is their petite size. Most men like women who are smaller than them. Maybe it goes all the way back to nature and in caveman days, males are drawn to smaller females which they could overpower in order to propagate the species. Or maybe it’s just an ego thing.
You know, a friend of mine used to work in Japan. And when he was in a club, chatting up a Japanese girl, she mentioned that her hands are so tiny, every cock (penis) will look huge in them. And he boinked her (the slut! haha). But it was all part of his fantasy, to feel like a big man. Plus, it’s quite easy to co-relate tiny hands to an equally tiny pussy, isn’t it?
Although we cannot really drastically change the size we are, we should play up a man’s masculinity. Compliment your man on how strong he is when he helps you open a jar, tell him how you love his broad shoulders. Make him feel like a man.
(Oh… It also wouldn’t hurt if you seriously started doing your kegel exercises from now on.)
A great part of traditional Japanese culture and upbringing is to impart physical grace and refinement in women. Whenever you think of a traditional Japanese woman, you think of words like gentle, refined and soft spoken.
Watch the way you move, be aware of your presence and the image you are projecting on every occassion. It’s not about changing yourself to suit men, but it’s about putting your best foot forward. I’m pretty certain that when people look at you and the words Juggernaut, brutish and sloppy… come to mind, that’s not exactly very appealing, is it?
The delicate fair complexion of most Japanese girls and their black hair is another turn-on for men. Long dark hair is an aphrodisiac for a lot of men. While the folds of the eyes of most Japanese girls give them a squinty look, many of them are almond-shaped, and this, according to face-reading theory, is the most sensual of all eye-shapes.
Do experiment with different long hairstyles, (with the help of extensions if you cannot grow it fast enough) see if a particular look makes you more attractive. Keep your hair in good condition with proper hair care products. Scraggly dry hair is unattractive no matter what the length! You should also experiment with those Korean coloured lenses which can make your eyes more alluring.
The allure of the Japanese woman is usually not in the form of direct sexiness, but rather from a kind of subtle, inviting innocence. There is something about the kawaii culture that appeals to a man.
Being kawaii doesn’t mean that you have to dress in a full sailor girl suit, like it’s Halloween everyday. But you can incorporate elements of girlish innocence into your everyday wardrobe. Get a blouse with frills, high socks or a little short checked skirt. Just don’t wear them all at once. You shouldn’t aim for an all out ACT CUTE image but a subtle one.
As you can see, the ways of a Japanese woman include physical grace, an air of mystery, coquettishness, softness, vulnerability, an air of innocence and skill in making men feel masculine and masterful. Their attractiveness and allure isn’t attributed to their specific race but it’s a combination of their culture and the image they project.
So let’s all take a hint or two from these girls and master this subtle art of seduction.
Holly Jean Aroozoo is our Contributing Love & Sex Editor. She is a very popular blogger who was one of the top 10 finalists in the Singapore Blog Awards, Best Lifestyle Blog category and contestant on S Factor in 2009.
Part of the FHM top 100 Girls Next Door in 2008, she is impulsive, adventurous and enjoys travel, new clothes, unhealthy food and men. She adores all things pink and is a freelance writer who focuses on lifestyle topics.
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