If you are married or in a very serious relationship, you definitely know that the relationship between you and your mother-in-law is important. As much as you would not like to admit it, she can make your life with your spouse really awful if she really wanted to!
As a part of the family, you should make your mother-in-law your best friend… because you’re just an all round decent person (lol) and also because there are some great benefits of having a friendly relationship with her. Here are 5 benefits you get from a good relationship with your mother-in-law.
1. You will have an ally
Apart from yourself, she’s probably the only other person who truly knows your husband inside out. It is useful to have her as an ally rather than a shit stirrer. You can share your feelings or husband related problems with her, and she will see where you’re coming from. Afterall, she knows if her son’s character, and whether he is unreasonable, stubborn, etc. She will understand and be on your side.
2. She is your strongest support system
Mothers, can be very giving and selfless people who thrive on other people’s well being and happiness. If you need any kind of help… with the kids, with the home, chores, money etc she will always do what she can to help you.
3. She would never hurt you on purpose
It is very common to hear of my married friends getting hurt (emotionally… not physically so far!) by their mother-in-laws. They may criticise the way you raise your child, comment negatively on your cooking or point out every speck of dust in your home. She would never hurt you any purpose if she is your best friend.
4. You can enjoy your married life
Most of the women can’t enjoy their married life because of the bad relationships with their mother-in-law. She meddles in your relationship, your personal life and worst of all, pulls your husband aside and speaks ill of you whenever she gets the chance to! This is toxic!
5. Your husband will be pleased
There’s nothing more enjoyable that peace and happiness in the family. He doesn’t have to feel like he has to take sides, nor does he have to step on eggshells every time you and her are in the same room. All this positivity has a roll over effect, a happy mother, a happy husband, a good relationship, and happy life for you!