Dear Holly Jean
I am a newly wed and I think my Mother-in-law hates me.
What’s worse is that she lives with us and she is constantly criticising me, I can never do anything right. I am never rude to her, but she will still find ways to complain to my husband about me. I hate that many of the accusations are not true but my husband doesn’t defend me!
I am 3 months pregnant (just found out last week!!). What disturbed me is that the day before, I overheard my Mother- in- law tell my husband that he should put
the cot in her room so the baby can sleep with her as she has more experience with babies. I think it’s important that I bond with my own baby, and am afraid that she won’t let that happen.
I’m very worried that she’ll take over as the baby’s “mother”.
Dear Sue Ann,
I am super duper annoyed for you! I know Mother-in-laws can be a pain in the ass… I’ve heard so many horror stories from friends. But I think you need to stand your ground on this matter.
Explain to her that you respect her because she is your husbands’ mother and you would like to have a better relationship with her. But it’s YOUR baby and it will sleep where you want it to and you will raise it the way you want to, and if you ever need advice or help, you will go to her.
If things do not get better, I suggest you limit your interactions with her and let your husband know that he needs to stand up for you more, instead of being a Momma’s boy. He needs to grow up too, now that he’s going to be a father.
DO NOT let her get her way with this.