I feel duped. Turns out 5 beliefs I had about sex are complete nonsense.
It includes some ‘facts’ which I’ve passed on to others in my past articles as well. And it’s not just me, I’m sure that many of you out there have actually heard of these myths in one way or another and believed it to be true all this while.
Here are the 5 most surprising sexual myths:
Sex burns a lot of calories
We’ve all believed that sex is great cardio, it gets the heart pumping. It’s a great and enjoyable way to lose weight. Turns out, sex actually burns a rather meagre amount of calories. Thirty minutes of sex burns between 85 to 150 calories. To put this in perspective… you need to burn 3,500 calories to lose 1 pound (450grams) of fat. So let’s say on average you burn 100 calories each time you have sex, that means after approximately 35 sessions, you will lose 1 pound of weight. That’s like less than half a kilo!
There are fixed sexual peaks
It has been widely proposed that men reach their sexual peak at 18 (that’s when testosterone peaks), but women reach their sexual peak at 30. People believed that when our hormones levels are at their highest, your sex drive must be at its peak. But when we look at the frequency of sex, then there’s no difference between men and women. Sexual desire constantly fluctuates in both and is related to many more factors like stress rather than age.
Sex when pregnant makes you go into labour
This myth is so widespread that even doctors will tell their overdue patients to try it. However, sex near your due date does not start labour, it may actually delay it. According to a study done by the Ohio State University Medical Center, researchers found that women who were sexually active in the final three weeks of their pregnancies carried their babies an average of 39.9 weeks! I abstained from sex in my whole first pregnancy and baby still came at 35 weeks. And I abstained from sex in the third trimester of my second pregnancy, and baby came at 37 weeks. My friend, however, was busy doing squats and having sex at week 40, and the baby had to be induced.
You can’t over masturbate
Yes, masturbation is healthy and it’s a great way to know your body. But you can actually overdo it! We can become so accustomed to a certain kind of pressure and speed from stimulating ourselves with our fingers or with sex toys that we find it difficult or even impossible to orgasm when we’re with a partner. In men, too much masturbation can result in delayed ejaculation. And always using porn to get aroused and climax can also give us unrealistic expectations of how our partner should look and act. Another mood killer in the bedroom.
Women take longer to get aroused than men
I think women appreciate foreplay a lot more than men, but it turns out that there is absolutely no difference in the time it takes men and women to reach peak arousal. A study was done by McGill University using thermal imaging, instead of just relying on surveys. It does make sense to me, just use your vibrator and see how long it takes you to climax, I bet you can do it in under a minute.