The Little Things That Destroy a Relationship


In relationships, we often let the little things slip by because in the short term and on its own, the little things feel inconsequential to us. 

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But it’s often the little things which destroy a relationship because the little things add up to a big thing. 


You don’t do stuff with your partner

Perhaps you don’t have common interests or both have very packed schedules. It feels more convenient and less of a hassle to just go about your days ticking things off your list on your own. But if you don’t take the time to have dinner, or watch a movie or go grocery shopping together with some regularity… you basically become 2 people living their own lives. Then it hits you one day, that you’re really just living with a stranger and not a life partner. Staying connected through what seems like mundane everyday activities is important. 


You don’t say I Love You

A simple thing like saying “I love you, baby,” before going to bed, or holding hands when you’re walking, and kissing each other hello and goodbye help you stay connected. Yes, you know you love your partner but do you actually make the effort to make them feel loved and wanted? Do you take for granted that this is something they know already and thus you can stop making any effort to show them affection?


You argue over the same old things

Couples argue quite often, so don’t assume the worst because of disagreements. However, constantly arguing over the same old things will wear you both down, If the same issues keep arising, then one or both of you consider the issue to be trivial and hence haven’t taken any real steps towards a solution or compromise. Eventually, it will come back to bite you in your selfish ass. 


Your sex life is unsatisfactory

Sure, you can tell yourselves that there is more to a relationship than sex (and you’re right, there is more) but physical intimacy is one of the main pillars of a relationship. Never neglect intimacy. Sex is the State of the Union. If the relationship is good, the sex will be good. You both will be wanting it and enjoying it. When the relationship is going south and there are negative emotions then the sex will often be the first thing to go out the window. If you find your sex life waning, step back and assess how you can fix this. The relationship between sex and the state of the relationship is almost symbiotic- they each provide the conditions necessary for the other to thrive.


We think our relationships are more than just these things so it’s ok to let these little things slip by us. But all these little things over time can make or break a relationship, I’ve witnessed and experienced so many relationships end, simply because of the little things.